Grandparents as Mom and Dad

In 2007, over six million children under 18 lived with their grandparents; almost 2.8 million grandparents were raising their grandchildren by themselves. The children may need care because of death, military deployment, mental illness, incarceration, drugs, alcohol, or other causes.

Whatever the reason, the grandparents have stepped up to take care of dependent children who need protection and care. It is often a financial burden and a physical and emotional challenge. The children can be angry with their parents and lash out at the only targets at hand – Grandma and Grandpa.

Children who have been in abusive situations may have a variety of mental health issues from depression to post traumatic disorder. Even very young children can be affected and should be under the care of a mental health professional. Children can also have medical conditions like failure to thrive, malnutrition, and poor dental care.

It is important for all involved to have a clear understanding of the child’s legal standing. A grandparent cannot legally enroll a child in school or seek medical attention unless they have legal standing. An experienced attorney is a good investment. Many communities have legal aid or non-profit organizations to help grandparents who cannot afford private attorneys.

If children have been removed from their parents’ care by the State, they can often be placed with grandparents or other relatives who qualify as foster families. The children are covered by insurance and the families can be paid as foster families. They do, however, have to agree to abide by all the rules including frequent social worker visits and following a treatment plan for each child.

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Pregnancy Communities: Why You Should Join One

Pregnancy is both an exciting and scary experience and can be a time of mixed emotions. For many women, and even some men, being part of a community catering to expectant parents is a source of strength and support. There are communities for just about any type of parent, such as first timers, parents expecting multiples, parents after 40, you name it — a pregnancy community exists.

Benefits of Pregnancy Communities

There are myriad reasons why it makes sense to join a group, whether online or not. Some of these include:

  • Information: many new parents will have lots of questions. They may have questions about creating a pregnancy calendar. The anonymity online groups provide also makes it easier to ask questions. The community members can also help you understand what is happening.

Many of these communities have links to useful information that can be helpful. This information can range from diet and exercise, to where to find good healthcare professionals.

  • Encouragement: Some pregnant women and their partners may have feelings of doubt and uncertainty. Pregnancy communities tend to have people who are supportive of each other. In the case of a miscarriage for example, members of online pregnancy communities can offer comfort.
  • Friendship: Many friendships have been formed and maintained this way. This can be especially important for pregnant women living far from their family. Many pregnant couples enjoy talking to others in the same situation.

Whether it is help understanding a pregnancy calendar or a place to vent, pregnancy communities are important to expectant mothers. The support and sense of belonging they provide can help make a pregnancy so much easier.

 

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Gaining a new Perspective: Baby Proofing

Hi!! Im almost Crawling

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The world is defined to familiar miles, the distances conquered daily. Your life is a series of little journeys — with paths carved from your home to your cubicle and back again. It’s an all too easy thing to move through the morning, and all steps seem free of danger. There are no worries to discover within your routine. It’s instead perfectly easy and perfectly safe.

That sense of safety disappears, however, when your child begins to crawl — and suddenly finds a wealth of worries scattered along your carpet.

The perspective you offer each day is one of maturity… and height. Your eyes remain focused on the the tall inches, with no concern for the ground below. Children, however, lack that ability. They are instead defined to their knees, must scurry about the floor to achieve their goals; and often they can find cords to pull, carpets to upend and little fragments of trash you’ve dragged inside. Nails, screws, glass, paper and more can all be seen — and then even swallowed.

It’s necessary therefore that parents kneel, allowing themselves to crawl as their children do. This will ensure that the view is unobscured and any potential dangers can be found. All outlets can be covered; all cables can be removed; and every inch of carpeting can be scoured for what vacuums may leave behind. Sliding across the ground will offer security.

Children lack the ability to censor impulses. They will scramble toward any temptation, unaware of the dangers. It’s vital therefore that all parents — including you — be aware of the possible threats and remove them.

 

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