Grandparents as Mom and Dad

In 2007, over six million children under 18 lived with their grandparents; almost 2.8 million grandparents were raising their grandchildren by themselves. The children may need care because of death, military deployment, mental illness, incarceration, drugs, alcohol, or other causes.

Whatever the reason, the grandparents have stepped up to take care of dependent children who need protection and care. It is often a financial burden and a physical and emotional challenge. The children can be angry with their parents and lash out at the only targets at hand – Grandma and Grandpa.

Children who have been in abusive situations may have a variety of mental health issues from depression to post traumatic disorder. Even very young children can be affected and should be under the care of a mental health professional. Children can also have medical conditions like failure to thrive, malnutrition, and poor dental care.

It is important for all involved to have a clear understanding of the child’s legal standing. A grandparent cannot legally enroll a child in school or seek medical attention unless they have legal standing. An experienced attorney is a good investment. Many communities have legal aid or non-profit organizations to help grandparents who cannot afford private attorneys.

If children have been removed from their parents’ care by the State, they can often be placed with grandparents or other relatives who qualify as foster families. The children are covered by insurance and the families can be paid as foster families. They do, however, have to agree to abide by all the rules including frequent social worker visits and following a treatment plan for each child.

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The Deadbolt Necessity: Safety

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It’s the stuttered strain of a hinge, the rattle of a handle. A front door is being… opened, and panic suddenly consumes you. The hour is late and no one of good intentions should be slinking into your home. You hurry to stand then, creeping into the hallway (grabbing an umbrella from the corner as you go, regretting the weakness of a weapon). There’s light peeking in from the crack in the door. It’s been pushed only a little. And you wonder how an intruder could slither in through such a tiny entry.

He couldn’t — but your child could. And you find him standing on the porch, unaware of the worry he’s caused.

Toddlers are shaped by impulses. They follow whims that can’t be defined or explained, are unconcerned with the consequences — and this can cause them to slip from their cribs and approach the front door, wanting to see what waits beyond it.

This is dangerous. It is estimated that two million children are harmed each year because of unsafe environments: and the lack of proper locks on the doors contributes greatly to these numbers. Deadbolts therefore are necessary. Parents must secure all entryways with these devices — which require specific keys to work and offer the necessary resistance. They cannot be reached by young children and can’t be simply undone (like traditional handle locks).

The need for deadbolts is absolute. All doors — including those that lead to the basement, attic or garage — should be offered one. This will keep children from escaping the house for midnight explorations and provide the necessary protection.

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Pregnancy Communities: Why You Should Join One

Pregnancy is both an exciting and scary experience and can be a time of mixed emotions. For many women, and even some men, being part of a community catering to expectant parents is a source of strength and support. There are communities for just about any type of parent, such as first timers, parents expecting multiples, parents after 40, you name it — a pregnancy community exists.

Benefits of Pregnancy Communities

There are myriad reasons why it makes sense to join a group, whether online or not. Some of these include:

  • Information: many new parents will have lots of questions. They may have questions about creating a pregnancy calendar. The anonymity online groups provide also makes it easier to ask questions. The community members can also help you understand what is happening.

Many of these communities have links to useful information that can be helpful. This information can range from diet and exercise, to where to find good healthcare professionals.

  • Encouragement: Some pregnant women and their partners may have feelings of doubt and uncertainty. Pregnancy communities tend to have people who are supportive of each other. In the case of a miscarriage for example, members of online pregnancy communities can offer comfort.
  • Friendship: Many friendships have been formed and maintained this way. This can be especially important for pregnant women living far from their family. Many pregnant couples enjoy talking to others in the same situation.

Whether it is help understanding a pregnancy calendar or a place to vent, pregnancy communities are important to expectant mothers. The support and sense of belonging they provide can help make a pregnancy so much easier.

 

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Gaining a new Perspective: Baby Proofing

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The world is defined to familiar miles, the distances conquered daily. Your life is a series of little journeys — with paths carved from your home to your cubicle and back again. It’s an all too easy thing to move through the morning, and all steps seem free of danger. There are no worries to discover within your routine. It’s instead perfectly easy and perfectly safe.

That sense of safety disappears, however, when your child begins to crawl — and suddenly finds a wealth of worries scattered along your carpet.

The perspective you offer each day is one of maturity… and height. Your eyes remain focused on the the tall inches, with no concern for the ground below. Children, however, lack that ability. They are instead defined to their knees, must scurry about the floor to achieve their goals; and often they can find cords to pull, carpets to upend and little fragments of trash you’ve dragged inside. Nails, screws, glass, paper and more can all be seen — and then even swallowed.

It’s necessary therefore that parents kneel, allowing themselves to crawl as their children do. This will ensure that the view is unobscured and any potential dangers can be found. All outlets can be covered; all cables can be removed; and every inch of carpeting can be scoured for what vacuums may leave behind. Sliding across the ground will offer security.

Children lack the ability to censor impulses. They will scramble toward any temptation, unaware of the dangers. It’s vital therefore that all parents — including you — be aware of the possible threats and remove them.

 

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4 Most Popular American Girl Dolls

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American Girl dolls depict girls from various times and backgrounds who all live in America. Because of their cultural diversity, the dolls are very popular among girls in America today.

All of the American Girl dolls come with an array of accessories including clothing, doll shoes, and furniture. The four most popular dolls, in no particular order, are as follows:

  • Addy Walker is an African American girl who has escaped slavery with her mother. Her story is a remarkable and courageous one. In their escape to find her brother and father, Addy’s mother had to leave behind an infant, whose cries may have given them away.
  • Josefina Montoya is a girl from New Mexico living in the first half of the 19th century. With the sorrow in her mother’s passing, new life is brought to her family’s rancho by her mother’s sister, who brings with her new ideas and a new way of life.
  • Rebecca Rubin is a young girl living in a 1914 New York City. Rebecca loves the tradition that her Russian-Jewish heritage instills in her. She is a great example of old traditions meeting new ways of thinking and a girl staying true to her roots whilst following her dreams in a vibrant city.
  • Julie Albright is a free-spirited girl living in San Francisco. Her story resonates with many young girls; she’s young and carefree but is about to go through major life changes: moving to a new city and starting a new school.

These four dolls are only a sample of the lovely range of dolls available from American Girl.

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Setting Boundaries with the Cell Phone

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As a parent, it is vitally important for you to have specific boundaries in place when it comes to your children, especially when things like cell phone use come into play. If you give your children the opportunity to have and use a cell phone, then you are clearly a progressive and forward thinking parent, but even still there are certain limits that need to be set in order to make sure that your children grow up to use cell phones correctly.

One of the best ways to keep track of your child’s cell phone usage is to make use of prepaid phones, which offer the same type of functionality as regular contract phones, but you can buy the minutes and texts and other usage limits rather than giving your child unlimited usage on the phone. This way, you can essentially decide how much time your child spends on the phone, as well as how they are and are not allowed to use the phone. Setting boundaries is important when it comes to cell phone usage, and using a prepaid phone service is a great way to not only set boundaries, but also to enforce them.

Setting simple boundaries can really be important when it comes to cell phone usage. This is going to help your child to understand the right and wrong ways to handle cell phone usage so that they can grow up understanding what their limits are. Setting basic limits and enforcing them with your child or children can really have a profoundly positive impact on them.

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4 Cool Social Network Apps for Teens

Keeping up with social networking sites is important. Teens are especially aware of this, as social networking sites are incredibly popular with this age group. In order to stay updated, here are some great social network apps for teens.

  1. Facebook: After you have chosen a smartphone, Facebook is the first social networking app to start using. The most popular social networking site, Facebook has an app for your smartphone that’s essential to stay in touch with your friends.
  2. FourSquare: FourSquare is a great app that also connects you to others around you. It allows you to mark and keep track of others, in respect to where you go. It’s a great way to find new great places in your city. FourSquare is a great way to unlock a nearby gem.
  3. MOTOBLUR: On Motorola Android devices, such as the CLIQ 2, MOTOBLUR is a great service that keeps track of social networks and more. You can customize profiles and information from different networks, as well as email and other sources, to stay in the loop.
  4. Seesmic: This alternative to using the Twitter app is arguably better than the Twitter app itself, according to many users. It’s incredibly easy to use.  If you use Twitter, give this a shot to stay up to date with things on the network.

Teens can stay updated with these and other useful social network apps. As always, there are many more that will arrive on the scene. Services like MOTOBLUR will be essential in handling all the information that teens and other users need from social networks.

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Living Room Safety: Baby Proofing

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A living room is meant to inspire relaxation, to offer solace from a too hectic world. The arrival of a child, however, has turned it instead into a source of dread — with every corner examined and every furnishing deemed dangerous. You’re terrified to allow your toddler to cross the threshold.

You don’t have to be.

Securing your living room is a simple thing, requiring only basic procedures:

Outlet Protection

A gape in the wall, an easy opening: outlets tempt children daily, with little fingers forever trying to press inside. This is worrisome, however, and can result in injury. It’s recommended therefore that parents take preemptive measures against what’s certain to occur — with safety caps. These ingenious devices can be placed into any standard outlet, keeping it closed when not it use. They can’t be removed with a toddler’s strength and ensure that holes can’t be touched.

Cord Removal

It’s the slow sway of a cord. Curtains are moving in the breeze, too strange to resist. Children will be enthralled by motion, will wish to grab easy to reach cables. And this can result in disaster: collisions, strangulation or even death. It’s important therefore that parents remove all low hanging cords.

Slip Resistance

Little feet pad quickly across the floor without grace or hesitancy. Children run at too daring speeds, and this often proves to be too much for carpeting. Throw-rugs will slip beneath the assault of toddlers, causing spills and bruises. Slip-mats are therefore necessary. These are placed beneath fabric and will ensure that they remain in place.

These methods will allow you to transform your living room into a happy environment.

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Safety Tips for Baby Clothing

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You want to buy the best clothing for your baby. What do you look for? What should you avoid? Is price all that really matters? Always think safety for anything you buy for your child.

Here are some ideas to get you thinking about your next purchase.

Clothing: Feel the fabric. Will it be comfortable for your baby? Softness really counts here, especially when you think of sleepwear. Make sure the outfit is not too tight and easily removable. Changing diapers is a big event, so make sure this area of the outfit is accessible for easy changing.

Baby costumes: Getting the right Halloween costume for your baby is important, especially when you consider all the places that now carry them. Make sure the costume is easy to get off around the head. Snaps or buttons at the back help. The costume should fit loosely over the body and you need to watch for any items on the front that can be easily pulled off and chewed on.

Swimwear: Keep your baby comfortable by purchasing a swimsuit that fits easily over the shoulders without being tight; the simpler the suit the better. A one-piece for baby will more than likely be of stretchy material; a two piece will not be as comfortable and may have additional bows or other accessories on the suit that you may not want your baby to pull off.

Buying the best clothing for your baby means looking at comfort and the ease of dressing and undressing and style. However, keeping your baby safe is always the top priority.

Chemical Storage: Safety Tips

It’s the slow creak of a door, the hesitant twist of a knob. The sound winds its way through the kitchen, interrupting your dinner preparations. You frown, glancing down to find the source, wondering what could make hinges wince. The answer startles you — your child is settled on the floor, opening cabinets and reaching toward the cleaning supplies. Chemicals are suddenly sought, their properties understood as new.

You’re already running, scooping your toddler up before he can grasp the first bottle and hurrying him away.

Children are defined by their curiosity. They distinguish the world through touch, learning all facets with their paint-stained fingers. It’s essential therefore that parents anticipate this and respond by storing chemicals responsibly.

The common precaution with cleaning supplies is to simply tuck them beneath the sink. A closed door is assumed to be enough of a deterrent. It isn’t, however. Instead it will serve only as a temptation, with children forever toddling toward it (and eventually even undoing the lock that’s wrapped around the knob). This is not safe.

It’s necessary instead to place chemicals on high shelves. All should be stored in the top cupboards, where children cannot reach them. This is the only preventive measure that is certain to work, with height acting as a barrier that can’t be overcome (be certain that youths can’t scramble onto counters. Avoid any step-ladders or easily scaled chairs in the kitchen). A safety lock is also recommended to complete the precaution.

Chemicals are understood as dangerous — to you. Children, however, will need time to recognize this. All supplies must therefore be stored properly until the lesson is learned.

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